A biased view on marriages in Kerala : Part 2
Posted on : 29-10-2009 | By : Ranjith | In : Social
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Read the First Part over here.
I was surprised hear about another concern of men planing for a marriage. Most of the Men i knew are looking for girls who have at least one brother. What they 
don’t want is a single girl child in family as their wife. I have heard many people advising wanna be grooms (some advised me too ) to try and find out a girl who has at least one brother. The reason they say i feel it is a bit lame but at the same time i cant disagree too much with them.
Reason they state for not to marry a single girl child of a family are
1) You will have to take up the responsibility of her family also. They say it is an extra burden in today’s fast mode of life.
2) Most of them Naturally asks you to stay at the girls house since there would be no one else there other than her parents. most of them argue this kills your freedom and many added it is a matter of pride for them. (ഭാര്യവീട്ടില് പരമസുഖം എന്ന് നാട്ടുകാര് പറയുന്നത് കേള്ക്കാന് താല്പര്യമില്ല പലര്ക്കും )
3) In Single girl child families the girls might have been brought up so attached to the parents that it would be too difficult for the girls to live separate from their parents. i was really surprised to hear lot of cases were this ended up in divorce.
Many argue that the only advantage of marrying single girl child of a family turns out to be money. But the argument is that in most cases extra burden isn’t worth that money.
It hard to believe the guys who go after brother less girls in college life looks for girls with brothers to marry. In college life they don’t want girl’s brothers because they might thrash them down for checking out the girl. But for a marriage the men looks for girls with brother so that they can avoid extra burden in life.
So Single daughters of the family out there.. Beware…Times are changing… only the money seekers might be after you…
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said on 30-10-2009
I find this article disturbing. Why would you prefer a girl who has less experience in life overall? It seems that men in this article don’t want a life partner, they want someone to take care of them. Why not stay with your moms if that what you want.
As for the part where your freedom would be gone if you moved into the girl’s family house, what about the girl’s freedom. In most cases the girl moves in with her husband’s family and her freedom is gone. Why is it ok for the girl’s freedom to be gone, but not the guy’s?
Women have so much more to offer than cooking, cleaning, raising children, and to say their moral values are compromised because of where they study or work is so ridiculous.
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ആവശ്യത്തിനും അനാവശ്യത്തിനും സ്വന്തം (ഏക) മകളുടെ വിവാഹ ജീവിതത്തില് ഇടപെടുന്ന മാതാപിതാക്കളെ ഞാന് കണ്ടിട്ടുണ്ട്.. അതുമൂലം വിവാഹമോചനം വരെ നേടിയവരെ എനിക്കറിയാം.. സഹോദരങ്ങള് ഉള്ള പെണ്കുട്ടികള് ആകുമ്പോള് അല്പം പക്വത കൂടുമെന്നു തോന്നുന്നു.. സ്വാര്ത്ഥത കുറവായിരിക്കും.. മാതാപിതാക്കള്ക്കു എല്ലാ മക്കളുടെയും കാര്യം നോക്കേണ്ടതുകൊണ്ട് ഒരാളുടെ മാത്രം കാര്യം അമിതമായി ശ്രദ്ധിച്ചു കുളമാക്കുകയുമില്ല
വലിയൊരു കുടുംബത്തില് നിന്നു വിവാഹം കഴിച്ചാല് ബന്ധുബലം കൂടുകയും ചെയ്യും.. പിന്നെ സ്വാതന്ത്ര്യം (ആണിന്റെയായാലും പെണ്ണിന്റെയായാലും) ആപേക്ഷികമാണ്.. സമയവും സാഹചര്യവുമനുസരിച്ചു മാറുമെന്നര്ത്ഥം..
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The word “purity” refers at something spiritual, not at something physical , so u guys should make it clear next time:P well….girls must be desperate to breed with the typical mallu male, it’s even more pathetic the girls parents pay him to marry her.:/
all the girls outside India laugh when they here of such thoughts and see indian adult men as men with infant minds.:/
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Malayalee men wont change!!!
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